Creating a better version of you is possible through personal development by committing to focus on your strengths and weaknesses then, finding ways to convert your weaknesses to strengths and letting go of those characteristics that do not serve you.
7 Steps to make or break a habit
We all have habits, some good and some not so good. These are behaviors that we’ve learned and that occur almost automatically. And most of us have a habit we’d like to break, or one we’d like to develop.
For most people, it takes about four weeks for a new behavior to become routine, or habit. The following steps can make it easier to establish a new behavior pattern.
- The first step is to set your goal.
Especially when you are trying to stop or break a habit, you should try to phrase your goal as a positive statement. For example, instead of saying “I will quit snacking at night”, say “I will practice healthy eating habits”. You should also write down your goal. Committing it to paper helps you to commit. It can also help if you tell your goal to someone you trust.
- Decide on a replacement behavior.
(If your goal is to develop a new habit then your replacement behavior will be the goal itself.) This step is very important when you are trying to break a habit. If you want to stop a behavior, you must have a superior behavior to put in it’s place. If you don’t, the old behavior pattern will return.
- Learn and be aware of your triggers.
Behavior patterns don’t exist independently. Often, one habit is associated with another part of your regular routine. For instance, in the snacking example the trigger may be late night television or reading. You automatically grab a bag of chips while you watch. Many people who smoke automatically light up after eating. Think about when and why you do the thing you want to quit.
- Post reminders to yourself.
You can do this by leaving yourself notes in the places where the behavior usually occurs. Or you can leave yourself a message on the mirror, refrigerator, computer monitor or some other place where you will see it regularly. You can also have a family member or co-worker use a particular phrase to remind you of your goal.
- Get help and support from someone.
This is kind of obvious. Any job is easier with help. It works even better if you can form a partnership with someone who shares the same goal.
- Write daily affirmations.
Write your phrase or sentence in the present tense (as if it were already happening), and write it ten times a day for twenty-one days. This process helps make your goal a part of your subconscious, which will not only remind you to practice the new behavior, but it also keeps you focused and motivated.
- Reward yourself for making progress at set time intervals.
Focus on your goal one day at a time, but give yourself a small treat at one, three and six months. The rewards don’t have to be big or expensive, and you should try to make it something that’s associated in some way with the goal. Doing this provides you with both incentive and extra motivation.
Following these steps is no guarantee of success of course. Depending on the habit it may take several tries to finally make the change. But if you stick with it, you can do it.
7 Steps to being your best self
*Know your purpose
Are you drifting through life with little direction – hoping that you will discover contentment, health and wealth? Determine your life purpose or mission statement and you will have your own distinctive compass that will guide you to your true north all the time.
* Know your values
What do you value most? Make a list of your top three values. Check your goals against your values. If the goal doesn’t align with any of your top three values get rid of it.
* Know your needs
Unmet needs will stop you from living authentically. Take care of yourself. List your top five needs and get them met before it’s too late!
* Know your passions
You know who you are and what you truthfully like in life. Express yourself and honor the people who have inspired you to become the very person you wanted to be.
* Live from the inside out
Commune with nature. Breathe deeply to quiet your distracted mind. Learn to listen to what your heart is saying.
*Honor your strengths
What are your positive traits? Find ways to express your authentic self through your strengths. You can increase your self-confidence when you willingly share what you know with others.
* Serve others
When you live authentically, you will find out that you develop an interconnected sense of being. When you are true to who you are, living your purpose and giving of your talents to the world around you, you give back in service what you came to share with others -your spirit – your essence. The rewards for sharing your gift with those close to you are indeed pleasing, much more if it were to be the eyes of a stranger who can appreciate what you have done for them.
How to build a vision for yourself
If you are someone that needs to find a vision for yourself you will want to make sure that you are following through with what life has in store for you. There are endless possibilities for everyone. If you are looking to make something great of yourself then you will need to set some priorities and goals for yourself so that you are well on your way to a better and bigger future.
When you are looking for something to keep you motivated, you need to first think about what you are doing for your own life. What are the most important things to you? Are you satisfied with everything that you are doing? Are you ready for a change in your life? If you are answering these questions truthfully, you will soon realize that maybe you are not living life to your full potential and maybe there is something better out there for you.
Make sure that you are thinking about your goals and dreams in life. You need to think about what you want to do in your future. Setting goals for long term and short term is going to be one thing that makes your life so much better and easier because you are going to have something to look forward to in the end.
Never give up on something that you really want. If you have goals set for yourself you will want to make sure that you are doing everything possible that you can, to feel good about who you are. Be prepared to work hard at your goals. There is nothing that should ever stand in your way.
You need to recognize that you are the one that is going to be in control of your life. When there is something that you really want to have, you should try to find different ways to go about achieving what you want. Finding motivation is one way of doing it. When you are energized and motivated to make something happen you will get there.
Think about what you are doing and then you can move on to something else. You can build up your own goals in life by thinking about what you need to do in order to improve your own goals. Thinking about something that makes you happy will help you get to where you need to be.
There is nothing wrong with making choices that fit your needs. Do not be afraid to go out there and make things work for you. It is going to take time but you will see in the end that you are going to improve your life a lot and find ways to make things different. You have to be willing to provide yourself with a set of smart goals that are going to work for you and all of your needs.
Try to find a way to see into your future. You have to be ready to take on challenges that are going to help you become stronger and more together. You should always know that you are going to be in control of a situation. When you are not happy with something that you are doing you should go out there and design your life just how you want it to be.
Do not be afraid of who you are and what you do in life. There are so many good ideas out there for you to choose from. Make sure that you are creating the goals in life that are going to help you be more productive and more enthusiastic about what you have in mind. There is nothing out there that should stop you from being who you want to become in life.
Think about your attitude and how far it has brought you. There is nothing in the world that you should think about more than where your life is going to end up. Success is something that you should always have on your mind.
These are the tactics I used when I made the decision not long ago, to take control of my life when faced with a career and life changing event. I decided that I was going to succeed and I set out on a journey to design my life on my terms. You can find out more about my journey here.